THE CHALLENGE OF
Today's youth is
in a dilemma. He is bombarded with subliminal and not-so-subliminal
sexual messages from all over - billboards, advertisements, television,
newspapers, magazines, friends, teachers and even enemies, everywhere!
Negative messages are sent across indicating that pre-marital sex is OK,
dating is normal, etc.
is a woman marrying a man according to an agreed upon dower and for a
pre-determined period of time stated in a marriage contract which
incorporates all the conditions of a marriage regarded by the Sharī`ah
as sound. Its format is that a woman says the following to the man after
they both agree and accept the dower and the period of time: “I married
you to myself on such-and-such a dower and for the known period of time”
where this period is named exactly. The man`s answer will be: “I
Nature has so
arranged that man and woman are attracted to each other. This natural
attraction binds them together and they lead a common life and form a
family. This natural tendency, the instinct of sex, should be guided to
the right direction so that it may be utilized in the service of
humanity. Though the common life of a husband and wife originates from
the sexual instinct, it gradually develops into a deep, spiritual,
sentimental, social and economic relationship. That is what Islam calls
Islamic Conditions for
By: Hojjat al-Islam Shaykh Husain
Marry those among you who are single, or the virtuous ones among your
slaves, male or female. [Holy Quran: Nur 24:32]
Religion and Piety
The revered religion of Islam is in fact a system supplied with beliefs,
morals and practical matters. Religious faith in Islam consists of
joining up of the heart with God and belief in the Day of Judgment; the
angels; the Prophets and the Glorious Quran. Morality in Islam consists
of humbleness; humility; etiquette; patience; submissiveness; fortitude;
tolerance; perseverance; kindness; compassion; good will; having mild
disposition; chastity and sincerity; justice, helpfulness; and
This is a
combination of three lectures
Ayatollah Dr Sayyid Fadhil H Al-Milani on wedding ceremonies
recently held in London
Allah tells us in the Quran:
Among His signs is that He created for
you from yourselves spouses that you may dwell in tranquillity with
them, and installed love and compassion between you…
He describes the relationship
between husband and wife as follows:
…. they are a garment for you, and you
are a garment for them
Topic: An Essay on Marriage
MARRIAGE IS ONE OF THE GOALS
The basic reality of sexual relation
between man and woman is most clearly established by human—nay, even
animal—nature; Islam being the religion of nature, confirms it without
any doubt. Procreation—the goal nature wants to achieve with this union—
is the basic factor and the only reason, which has transformed
cohabitation into marriage, and raised it from mere carnal relation to a
A Muslim Sister
American woman embracing Islam, there are often hurdles and challenges
to be met. One of the most difficult aspects of Islam for me to accept
was the permissibility of polygamy. The very thought of it seemed so
bizarre and I chose to ignore it rather than accept it or to ever take
part in it.
and having babies together with no commitment is now the norm-–now
marriage is old fashion! This is the reason why there are millions of
single mothers, why there are so many broken homes, and why the family
unit is slowly breaking up. Also, children are being forced to live in
unhealthy environments which results in them being psychologically
impaired later on in life.
Who is to blame?
occurs to one million girls each year, at a rate of 3,000 per day, 80%
of who are unmarried. Out of this million, about 500,000, decide to
keep their baby, and 450,000 are aborted. Only 50% complete high
school and more than 50% of them are on welfare. They themselves
become child abusers and their children, when grown up, have 82%
chance for teenage pregnancy. 8.6 billion dollars are spent every
year for the financial and health care support of teenage mothers.
Who is to blame? Majority of the blame falls on the parents. It is
the parent’s responsibility to make sure these incidents don’t happen.
What Islam says about Sex?
Sex during marriage
is a good thing. Out of marriage it is a sin and out of the question.
Therefore Islam say
yes to sex during marriage and totally go against pre-marital sex.
Sex is a natural
part of life and we have to understand that. What isn’t natural is to
have sex without a husband or wife - without the true commitment of
Concept of Adultery in
"Do not go near to adultery. Surely it
is a shameful deed and evil, opening roads (to other evils)"
(17:32). "Say, 'Verily, my Lord has prohibited the shameful deeds,
be it open or secret, sins and trespasses against the truth and
reason"' ( Quran 7:33).
"Women impure are for men impure, and
men impure are for women impure and women of purity are for men of
purity, and men of purity are for women of purity"
Islam Says….No Sex
Quran Surat Baqarah
They ask you about menstruation, say:
Menstruation is a discomfort (for women.) Do not establish sexual
relations with them during the relations with them during the menses
and do not approach them (sexually) until the blood stops. Then when
they have cleansed themselves, you go into them as Allah has commanded
Divorce or Dissolution of
Marital life ought to begin with
earnestness and should continue happily under the shadow of love,
tolerance and self-sacrifice. But practically speaking marriage
contract and conjugal relations do not in all cases continue to exist
till the end of life. In certain cases it becomes impossible for two
parties to live together in peace and harmony for various reasons such
as their emergence of deep rooted differences. In such circumstances,
there must be a suitable way of dissolving a marriage legally, otherwise
if the parties are forced to continue to live together, their life is
likely to become unbearable. In many cases, the consequences may be
most regrettable and even tragic. Anyway, it is evident that as
marriage in itself is a social need, in certain circumstances its
dissolution is also a social necessity. The social compulsions have
forced even the Christians to frame and enforce laws concerning divorce,
though their present religious book forbids it except in the case of
unchastely and though their Church has for long opposed it vehemently.
"But I say unto you, that whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for
the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever
shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery".
(Matthew, V:32). The divorce act is even passed in Italy, which is the
seat of the Pope.
Life after Divorce
There’s been hundreds of millions of words
written about life after death, and slightly less about life after life.
How much has been written about life after
divorce? And how much of that makes sense?
I am an Iranian born Pakistani Parsee
[Zoroastrian] woman, almost 30 now. I have been divorced for almost
eight years. Divorce is something very rare in Parsees.
A guide to
selecting your life partner
Sister Nahla Abbas Al-A'raji
Marriage is one of the most highly recommended acts in Islam. The Holy
Prophet of Islam (blessings of Allah be upon him and his progeny) says
“The person who marries, safeguards half of his religion.” Let’s look
at some factors relating to marriage.
Criteria for Selecting a Marriage Partner
In modern times, the criteria for selecting a marriage partner tends to
focus mainly on materialistic traits such as: wealth, beauty, social
rank, character, etc. The Holy Quran, however, enjoins Muslims to select
partners who are good and pure. Allah (swt) states, “Women of
purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity"
Misyar marriage: an alternative to Mut'ah?
Misyar Marriage — a Marvel or Misery?
Jabarti, Arab News
Sunday, 5, June, 2005 (27, Rabi` al-Thani, 1426)
JEDDAH, 5 June 2005 — To some, it’s an unthinkable act; for others, it’s
better than loneliness, but in what is otherwise a conservative culture,
misyar marriage goes against the grain.